Decluttering is good for your health
- by Elizabeth Gresson
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- 13 May, 2019
Clutter has an impact on both our physical and mental health.
Living in a cluttered environment is not healthy. Rooms full of stuff have poorer air quality as less air is able to circulate. More things provide more surfaces for dust and airborne pollutants to collect. Crowded rooms are harder to clean than ones with less furniture and fewer objects, so in many cases they remain uncleaned, collecting more dust and dirt.
Things can then become extreme, with pests and vermin making their home amongst the clutter.
When it comes to mental health, clutter is both a cause and symptom of depression. Living in a cluttered, messy environment causes overwhelm and contributes to low mood. This then leads to a lack of motivation and energy to deal with the clutter.
Clutter also causes stress. In my work I know that couples often argue when their home is full of stuff with one or both parties blaming the other, and feeling the other person should deal with it. I see people who worry about their parents having too much stuff and fearing what they will face when the time comes for the older person to leave their home.
I always think it’s preferable to stress the benefits of decluttering rather than dwelling on the negatives. Helping people to see that life without the clutter will mean a healthier environment can be a catalyst for change. I make a point of highlighting the changes as we go along to provide encouragement and to help the client see what a difference clearing the clutter has made.
When people are able to deal with the clutter, I can see how their confidence increases. It makes them appreciate life beyond the clutter and opens up new opportunities for them, such as getting involved in new activities outside their home.
These are probably the two most common questions I’m asked when I speak to a potential client.
When I help clients I work to their agenda, not mine and they will always have control over the process. I don’t tell them how we’ll work or what we’ll keep. We start where they choose, in the area that’s causing them the most problems. It could be that a bedroom is so full of stuff that they can no longer sleep there. It may be that they have books spread all round the house and they want to make space in one room to put them all together. They may have a garage stuffed with boxes which still haven’t been unpacked from when they moved in several years ago. Their house may be ordered and organised but they’re paying monthly fees for a storage unit full of stuff which they want to sort through.
We start by going through their thing and I ask them to decide what they want to keep. When I ask them about an item, this gets them to really think about it and what it means, if anything, and enables them to make a decision about whether to keep it or not. One client told me that this process made him accountable. Not to me, but to himself.
The process can take time. I worked with a client who found it very hard to let go of certain items of clothing. She knew she wouldn’t wear them again - they came from a time of her life that was over, but the decision was still hard to make. With some items we spent 20 minutes talking about each one before she was able to let them go. At the end of working with me, she told me she had found it “therapeutic”.
I can encourage decisions and provide some perspective, but the choice is always the client’s.
Most people are (rightly) concerned with the environmental impact of their decluttering. Many of them though, don’t know the wide range of things that can now be repurposed and recycled. I do know, and I’m able to reassure them that most of what they let go can be reused in some way. I don’t believe though that a desire to keep something out of landfill warrants holding onto an item if that’s the only reason to keep it.
So, if you want to get the clutter cleared but are anxious about working with an organiser, be reassured that with me it is a gentle process where you won’t come under any pressure or have any judgments made.
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Many of us have things in our houses which have a story attached to them. The Chinese vases that Great Uncle Harry brought back from Hong Kong; the clock grandfather was presented with when he retired; the silver napkin rings which were a wedding present; or the chair that was in the hall of an old family home. When we’re in the position of having to consider what we have - maybe for a house move - we often enlist the help of our families. They too know the back story of these items and they are just “Uncle Harry’s vases”, “the chair from Albion Road”, or “grandfather’s clock”. There is no thought or consideration about why we have them and often we don’t see them anymore. They’ve just always been there. Other family members wouldn't want the items in their own houses, but they are reluctant to see them discarded because of the obligations of the back story.
When I work with clients, I don’t know the history or associations of any of their possessions, and I will simply ask about that clock, those pictures, that ornament. When a client tells me the story, it’s like talking to a therapist who is completely detached from it. As the client starts to tell me about the background of how Great Uncle Harry, or their grandfather acquired the item and how long it’s been in their house, they start to ask themselves the significance of it. Maybe Great Uncle Harry was their husband’s relative, they never met him and actually they don’t like the vases very much. The clock may have a loud annoying tick and is kept in a cupboard and never wound up. Once they have worked through the process of considering the item and its meaning to them, they very often then feel able to let go of it. They can tell family members that they don’t want it any longer, and if the rest of the family feel strongly about it, one of them can take it. Not surprisingly, when confronted with this, the family members often agree that it can be sold, or just given away.
For me, decluttering is about making mindful, intentional choices about what we have in our houses. Our homes are about us, what’s important to us and what we value. It shouldn't be about holding onto things from an obligation to other people. I wouldn’t want to think that someone kept something in their home that they didn’t like, simply because I gave to them, or that my children felt obligated to keep possessions of mine that mean nothing to them. I would prefer that they passed it onto someone who valued it and actively wanted in their home.
So, give yourself permission to let go of the things that you’re only keeping because of their back story and only have in your home the things that mean something to you. If you want my help to support you through the process, get in touch and let’s get started!